June
2008
Post Divorce Healing: Self Coaching and Whispers from God0
I truly love writing this blog…even if only one person benefits from reading it.
Several life altering events happened during the month of May. Some of the events were worth incredible celebrations and others were heart breaking. I’m certainly not the only person, who has gone through any of these major life stressors.
However, thanks to the brilliant work of one of my coaching colleagues, Brooke Castillo, I discovered a wonderful tool to deal with the “gnarly stuff. It’s called “self coaching”. It takes time and the willingness to honestly self reflect. I needed some time to just “be” and give myself space to heal. One thing I’ve learned about life coaching ala’ the “Martha Beck” style is that it is absolutely essential to be TAO (Transparent, Authentic, and Open) in every area of my life.
Self Coaching involves pondering the following whenever one is suffering any negative emotions:
Circumstances: What is going on? (Real, Agreement from everyone that this event occurred)
Thoughts: What are my thoughts related to this event? (Usually not accurate! However, I believe my thoughts are true and real)
Feelings: What feelings come up related to the thought?
Action: What is my action in response to the feeling?
Results: What are the results of my action?
Circumstance: One life altering circumstances that happened in May was that I am now divorced. Unfortunately, this is real and all know it to be truth. Read the rest of this entry »